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from Wikipedia. I used to work here.
Sometimes, this translate into our prayer life. I must say the entire Rosary. A single Hail Mary or Our Father isn't worth as much. A quick prayer in the car as I'm driving to my appointment isn't worth it. I'll wait to talk with Jesus until I can get on my knees and spend at least fifteen minutes in prayer. I'll wait to do it right,that is, BIGTIME.
Bigger isn't always better. Just ask me after I take one more bite of Peruvian Fried Rice. And have you ever tried to park in between two SUVs? That mindset - everything needs to be BIG - can get in our way.
Can you imagine ignoring your spouse or your child as you dash out the door? "A quick I love you isn't worth my time. I'll talk to you when I have time to sit down and have a big, long conversation." Sometimes what we can give at the moment is enough.
When a woman in a writing group announced that she had a medical worry, she asked us to say a novena for her. A novena is a prayer that lasts nine days. It can be a Rosary with additional prayers, or a set of prayers along with the Our Father, Hail Mary, and Glory Be. It can be time consuming.
My typical reaction would be, "Oh, sure. I'll find time in-between bleaching the kitchen grout and scrubbing the dog's butt hairs." (Yes. I'm serious. About both.) And then she explained.
Her novena was so incredibly simple. As frustrations come up during the day, like trying to catch the dog to clean his bottom, offer them up for your intention. That's it. And if it sounds too easy, just pause a moment and reflect on how many frustrations come up during a normal day. Pretty powerful, which is no surprise, since it came from a Saint.
So she was nice to that nun who was mean to her. She offered up her irritation during prayer time, when an older nun's clicking Rosary beads drove her crazy. (Isn't it comforting to know that a Saint can get hacked off by the same things that bug me?) She took little steps toward Jesus, and now she's a Saint. A BIG Saint, with a capital S.
And so I employed her technique. When Buster passed up the wide open hillside did a messy job on someone's private front lawn, I offered up the cleanup process. When the computer glitched again and again, up it went to God. Whenever we attempt holiness, the enemy jumps in to distract us, but this time it backfired. He gave me so many opportunities to offer my frustrations to God, and something wonderful began to happen. God always rewards our efforts.
As I continued this process, the things that would normally have me shaking my fist and swearing like a sailor ... well, they didn't bother me so much.
I went to the church office to help out, and because of computer problems, I wasted an hour before we had to give up for the day. Me, the same woman who left my chiropractor's office in a stressed-out tiff because I waited fifteen minutes past my appointment time, wasn't bothered.
When I had to make a Rosary bracelet special request, the wire kept breaking. I persevered and finally found the right gauge wire. (Note to self. Mark those bags of wire.)
The website problem that has brought me to tears? I went at it step by step until I found the solution. (I really think the Holy Spirit had something to do with that one, because I'm incapable of figuring out problems on the computer.)
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I took a break from writing this blog to walk the dog. I had to cross a busy street because some jerk had her dogs off-leash, even though the park signs clearly say All dogs must be on a leash. I really, really hate this. It's rude. It's inconsiderate. It's stupid. It shows a disregard for other people and the dogs, who could be hit by cars or attacked by other loose dogs or coyotes. It's lazy. The dogs ran around while she texted on her phone.
Just as I was working up a deep breath to bellow at her, I remembered my novena. Though I grumbled a bit about being deprived of the satisfaction of telling her what I thought about her rude, inconsiderate, stupid, lazy ways, I gave it to God. And my anger dissipated. (Truly. I'm smiling as I write this. Well, maybe not smiling, but the urge to kill something is gone.)
Our lives are never going to be free of frustrations, so why not offer them up for your special intention? Try it. Then let me know how it worked out for you.