“Martha, Martha, you are worried and bothered about so many things;" Luke 10:41 Remember Martha? Bustling about, trying to be the hostess with the mostess? But she was a GOOD hostess and a quick learner. Jesus only had to tell her once that Mary had the better portion. I'm not even a good pre-talk Martha, but I'm working on it!
Tuesday, January 27, 2015
My Talk About Mary and the Saints Given at Bible Study
How many of you have a
devotion to Mary or one of the Saints?
I had a difficult time
forming a relationship with Mary and the Saints. I believed all of the doctrine and dogmas
about Mary, and I understood that we have an amazing community of Saints that
we can draw on for support and inspiration. I just couldn't seem to connect.
Unfortunately, there are many
Christians who are separated from these relationships, especially with Mary, but
it wasn't always this way. In fact, here are a few quotes about Mary. Guess their source:
- It is a sweet and pious belief that the infusion of Mary's soul was effected without original sin....
- The veneration of Mary is inscribed in the very depths of the human heart.
- Christ, our Savior, was the real and natural fruit of Mary's virginal womb...This was without the cooperation of a man, and she remained a virgin after that.
You might be thinking St. Louis de Montfort, author of True Devotion to Mary, or St. John Paul II, who dedicated his papacy to Mary. Right?
These observations were from Martin Luther, some of it after the split from
the Church.From the beginning, the
Church recognized Mary and her role as our Savior's mother.People prayed for her intercession. An
ancient prayer to her is:
We turn to you for protection, holy Mother of God.
Listen to our prayers and help us in our needs.
Save us from every danger, glorious and blessed Virgin.
I went through a prayer
exercise where I needed to envision both Mary and Jesus being in prayer with
me, and I could envision Jesus, but Mary was always hovering around the
background. But then again, isn't that
where she has always chosen to be? Supporting the apostles in the early Church,
yet not the one who gets talked about in Scripture? Who
thinks Mary just said, "Good luck, Son!" when Jesus started His
mission and then went about her business until the Crucifixion?
But we don't hear about her.
Isn't that strange? Or is it just like a mother? How many mothers have
supported their children without getting or asking for credit? Just like a mother. There were reports while Mary was still alive of her bilocating--being in two places at the same
time--which, from what I understand, is an ability of most mothers. We take advantage of her when we think of it,
we ignore her when we don't need anything, and we try to manipulate her when we
want something, just like a mother.
And then I fly to the
opposite end of the spectrum and find, through my own deficiencies, that she is unapproachable. As if she's that
intimidating aunt who was always trying to kiss you at family gatherings.
Forming a relationship with
the saints can be just as intimidating. I love Padre Pio, but I sometimes feel
that if I approached him, he would say, "Who are you? You've sinned 4
times since we started this conversation. I'm going to go talk to Blessed
But if you aren't ready to
approach the saints, the good news is that they will approach you. When I first returned to the Church, Padre
Pio was stalking me. His name came up in
conversation, but I had no idea who he was. Then someone handed me a novena with
his face on the front of it, and I naively thought, "What a
coincidence!" Then I went to a meeting, and there was Padre Pio staring down at me from a
picture on the wall. So I got a book on
him and read about his suffering from the stigmata, his persecution from
jealous people, and his amazing connection with his guardian angel, Mary and
I've had other instances
where saint have made themselves known to me.
God will use any medium to reach you.
I was flipping channels and stopped on a program on EWTN on Venerable
Pierre Toussaint. He was a slave who was educated and trained in hairdressing. He
was basically a free man with the title of slave, who went to Mass every
morning and earned his own money. When
his master died, he remained a slave so he could support the household, because
the mistress wouldn't have taken money from him if he had been a free man. He
financially helped wealthy people who had fallen on hard times, and he did it
anonymously so they wouldn't feel
ashamed, because he knew that doing Christ's will was more important than his
own ego. I watched this show, and I had tears running down my face. My first
thought was, "Rats. Here comes menopause." But he was showing me
something I needed to learn.
Another time I caught a movie
on Saint Josephine Bakhita, also a slave, who radiated joy in every
circumstance. After I discovered her, I was praying, and I felt that I was
under attack with negative thoughts. Suddenly, the image of St. Bakhita
appeared in my mind, and I was filled with joy. It's as if she swooped in to
I did wonder about the slave
theme that was appearing in the saints who were coming to me, and then I
realized that I am a slave to many things--anxiety, worry, sin. Maybe sin was
letting in the anxiety and the rest. That may be why Reconciliation was so
important to the saints. Kind of an armor against sin. Many of the saints who
were priests were dedicated and gifted in hearing Confessions. Some could tell
you your sins, and the big ones aren't necessarily murder. Did you know that the only sin Padre Pio
wouldn't absolve was gossip unless the person promised not to do it again?
Mary also repeatedly points
us toward Confession, because the Sacrament of Reconciliation repairs our
relationship with Jesus. In one of her apparitions, she said that a return to
monthly Confessions would save the West. That's it? What are we waiting
for! It sounds simple, but pride does a
pretty good job of keeping us away.
I remember I had one sin I
didn't want to confess. It wasn't murder. Isn't it funny how murder is always
the standard? I didn't kill anyone, so I don't really need to go. Well, this
wasn't murder, but I bet all of us have that one sin that embarrasses us. It
could be I made a strong man blush by my swearing, or I got depressed and
ate an entire cake. That's gluttony, which is a sin. To sin, you need
knowledge that it's a sin and you need to do it of your own free will. I knew
eating the entire cake would be a sin, and I ate it anyway. But doesn't
gluttony sound terrible? Worse than murder?
I'm not saying that was the
sin, but it was embarrassing for me. I actually got online and was searching
the internet for other parish's Confession schedules, because I thought if I
confessed my sin to Father Albert, I'd never be able to look him in the eye
again. Or rather, he wouldn't, because every time he saw me he'd be thinking,
"It's the cake lady."
That's pride at work, and the
enemy is really good at using it to keep us away from this sacrament! Once I
realized that one of the gifts of Confession is practice in humility, I bit the
bullet and went, and Father Albert has yet to run away screaming when he sees
I think it helps if we
realize that Mary and the Saints were human beings, just like us, but they
worked at their humility and at living as Christ wanted them to. Out of the billions of people born, it's as
if God gave us certain people to point out to us how to live as Christians, including
how to overcome our difficulties. I
relate to St. Jerome. He was mouthy, rude, critical, and didn't play well with
others, but that didn't stop him from becoming a saint. That gives me hope.
St. Peregrine was cured of
cancer, and last minute at that, so he gives us hope when we're in despair from
critical illnesses. St. Augustine - a
womanizer and a drinker and, at one time, a pagan. He gives me hope when I have
momentary doubts, or when I eat that chocolate that I was giving up for Lent
because I "needed" a lift, or...well, I can't say I've been a
But what if your son or
daughter is living in sin? Has a baby out of wedlock? St. Augustine is right there as an example
that God can reach them wherever they are, and you need to pray for them and
have hope, though hopefully you won't have to pray for forty years like St.
Augustine's mother, St. Monica.
Padre Pio taught us how to
endure suffering with dignity. Blessed
Mother Teresa taught us to treat each individual with dignity, even if they
were outcasts of society, even if they smelled of rotting flesh. She would
carry a dying person from the streets and place them in a bed and stroke their
face and call them Jesus, because she saw Jesus in every human being. They are our examples, and we should get to
know them so we can see how to live as Christians but also to see how human
they were. That it's okay not to be perfect.
But we should still strive to
be perfect, and that's where Mary comes in. She was the perfect disciple and
therefore our perfect example. I think
of the Joyful Mysteries as her Mysteries.
The Annunciation, showing us how to say yes to God no matter how
impossible the odds. The Visitation, showing us how to put other's needs before
our own and just trust in God that He'll take care of our needs as well. To
visit Elizabeth, Mary traveled miles on a donkey (or maybe on foot!) While pregnant! And you might
think, well, she wasn't showing that much when she left, but she did have to
make the journey back, and women's stomachs don't get smaller in the second
trimester. The Nativity, showing us the fruit of saying yes. The Presentation, showing us that no matter
what we give to God, He can't be outdone in generosity. I give you two turtledoves, you give me the
Son of God. What a deal! Give everything to Him. Imagine what you'll get
back! Finding Jesus in the Temple,
showing us that when we look for Jesus, we will find Him. Can you imagine how many people were
strolling around Jerusalem? EVERYBODY showed up for Passover. And yet they found one 12-year-old boy.
We sometimes imagine Mary
with a pious long face, but love is joy, and Mary loved God. They said Mary
danced in the Temple as a girl. Think
about when you fell in love, or of the people you currently love. Does it make
Everything Mary experienced
was a result of Jesus. Jesus was crowned with thorns, Mary was crowned in
Heaven. Jesus was pierced with a lance, and because of that Mary's heart was
pierced with a sword. Jesus was mocked by the soldiers. Does anyone think Mary
was probably mocked because of her pregnancy before living with her
husband? And yet she remained faithful to God and is
now Queen of Heaven.
She gives us so many tools to
get to Jesus. The Rosary, so we can meditate on the mysteries of His life. The
Fatima prayer. Consecration to her
Immaculate Heart so that everything we offer to Jesus is purified by her
Her message is always the
same. Love my son. He loves you. Love
one another; it's what He wants. Pray, fast and repent.
It will take practice. I still have difficulties. I pray my rosary
while walking the dog and lose my place when I stop to take care of business. And does anyone pray novenas? Nine day
prayers for special intentions? I've never made it through nine days straight
without losing a day.
But ours is a road to
perfection. Mary was full of grace. We are not. That's why she and the saints are available to
us--to help us on that journey so we can all be with God. Be open to them. They are willing and able to
help us get to Heaven. Just pick a saint and decide to learn something about
them and see how it applies to your life.